As you do not know the path of the wind, or how the body is formed in a mother’s womb,
so you cannot understand the
work of God, the Maker of all things. Ecclesiastes 11:5
Do you remember that
corny, old Don Johnson song from the 1980s? (Yes, Don Johnson of Miami Vice fame, once thought he could
sing, like Eddie Murphy.) The chorus was catchy, with him singing repeatedly
about how he was looking for a heartbeat. Well, yesterday my wife and I found one. For the first time we heard the heartbeat of
our almost 12-week old baby growing inside his mommy's tummy. It was very
emotional. My wife teared up. I teared up just a few weeks earlier when the
ultrasound allowed us to see our baby's heartbeat for the first time. A
previous miscarriage had resulted in an ultrasound where there was no heartbeat
to see (or hear). So hearing and seeing the baby's heartbeat this time around
were moments of relief and excitement for us parents-to-be.
Modern technology is
marvelous. It allows fathers a glimpse into the life of their unborn baby. The
child doesn't grow inside us, kick us, or get our attention in any way besides
noticing the growth in the size of our spouse's belly. But now through the
ultrasound we get to see inside and I think that helps us feel less detached
from the process, and more emotional about it. At least it did for me.
They have been saying
for years that technology would make it more difficult for the pro-abortion
movement. Now I understand why. When expectant mothers (and fathers) can hear
and see their baby's heartbeat and development on a monitor, it becomes more
difficult to abort the child. It is no longer an abstract idea, one you can
detach yourself from. It becomes a living, breathing entity growing inside. And
for me at least, that moment was a bonding experience. The baby doesn't live
inside me, but from that moment I saw the heartbeat it began to live inside my
heart. And so hearing (and seeing) my child's heartbeat is music to my ears.
to my knowledge, ultrasounds do not reveal a diagnosis of autism. There is no
test that I know of that will determine, before birth, whether or not your
child will be on the autism spectrum. So at this point in our journey, my wife
and I had no idea what to expect. And I am thankful for that because it allowed
me to bond early on with my child, absent of fear or worry. You quickly learn
as a parent, and we were about to learn very soon, that there is plenty of time
for that later on.
you or someone you know about to have a blessed new addition to the family?
Thank God for creating that baby. Pray for that person, that pregnancy, and
that family right now. Ask God to protect the mother, the pregnancy and the
delivery. And ask God to give the parents moments of excited anticipation as
they wait for their new arrival.
Labels: autism, Autism Awareness Month, Ecclesiastes 11:5, Parker's Story: Essays on Autism and Awesometism